I am not married yet, so I have not said those words to anybody.
Yet, I am one who has been through a series of mishaps when it comes to affairs of the heart. I have had a fairly long line up of broken hearts and dreams trailing my path from years I could not even remember. And that makes me wonder whether I am a victim or the culprit of situations.
Yesterday, I was having a conversation with my friend. We've gone through almost the same situations and we end up being alone in our corner of the world. Our conversation became very animated as we tried to get a grip of what may be missing in ourselves...us being who we are...and why are we still single now that we've crossed mid-life.
There were several permutations we've gone through...blame our parents for the way they raised us...blame our (ex) partners because they can't understand us...blame everybody and anybody...everything and anything...but us...
What I realized after such animated conversation is that there is nobody else to put to task on all of this except myself. I firmly believe that, with God's guidance, we create the life we live; that every decision we have made in the past has brought us to where we are right now.
There is nobody else responsible for my life except myself.
With that humbling epiphany, I now face life with a different perspective. I promise to be more understanding by trying to put myself in the shoes of the other person. I will be more humble and more loving.
I thank God for such realizations!
